Category Archives: relationships

Sensory inputs from ghosts, other than sight?

I’m quite sure most people have seen a ghost; whether they want to admit, believe, or confess that they did actually see one remains up to the individual. But, besides seeing a ghost, is there other sensory stimuli that convince us something is “not kosher?”

I have confirmed with more than one person an unlikely aspect of a haunting entity or spirit: of all the things, the olfactory bulb located in our nasal passage. The sense of smell! The writers of ages ago implied the spirits or entities would give us the stink of death; a musky, decaying smell of sort. However, in my, and others encounters with the hereafter nothing could be farther from the truth.

One example is from Ghost Stories of Cape May, New Jersey. I will not steal from it, but describe the fact that a certain human had a food preference at a local eatery. True to form, as in most creatures of habit, the restaurant patron was a daily visitor. One night, he did not arrive at the appointed time. The waitress was quoted as saying that she KNEW something was awry, and assumed the worse. Sure enough, a very strong smell came to her at her waitress station, and she surmised it was the missing customer’s spirit, making contact with her. She was later proven right.

Certain daily items, such as cologne, tobacco, perfume, or even foodstuffs such as coffee, tea, and so on, have a certain strong, distinct aroma. These aromas can be “reproduced” for lack of a better term, by entities trying to get your attention. Usually the smell is overpowering, and therefore not a chance wift being sidetracked by a breeze or errant wind current. It is my belief that these strong aromas are being put upon the living for a reason. In my book, there was a chapter that detailed this event very thoroughly. The only problem is that there was no suitable explanation given or formulated by myself in order to explain this supernatural occurrence!

In another chapter, soothing kitchen aromas were detected by the owners of the house, usually without the stove on! It could be stated that the spirit or ghost were amusing themselves, in a past tense activity that brought them joy and comfort. Imagine that, ghostly cooking, but without palatable food!

So, the next time you smell a strong odor of Uncle So and So’s after shave, Aunt So and So’s morning roasted Vanilla Bean and Cinnamon Coffee, Grandpa’s Prince Albert pipe tobacco, or an apple pie smell coming from the oven, beware! Either one of your relatives has just passed on, or your resident entity is trying to get your attention!

Marriage, Dating, and Hooking Up with the younger generation

Tales of my wife, and second wife are barely mentioned in my book. I am a baby boomer, and the matrimonial tradition was still strong with me before most of the chapters in my book started. However, different forces, circumstances, and just plain life in general set this askew. I dated/lived with a girlfriend for over 5 years in the domicile where Dr. Schadt haunted us. Myra has several chapters devoted strictly to her, and our collective misfortune of being haunted. Myra was only twelve years my junior; the generational gap was more of an overlap than a complete paradigm shift. After our parting of way, it was pretty much hit and miss, relationship wise, until I started meeting and living with much younger females.

Interesting enough, there is some separate lingo and terminology when dealing with the younger generation. Since I am in an open relationship, my much younger friend Diane states we are not boyfriend or girlfriend. We are neither dating, or in a relationship. We are, however, hooking up.

I can’t say that I blame them, this younger generation, for their lack of focus. Ignoring politics, economics, or the speed of technology, their mindset is different. My previous contact with a like minded female who did not make it into my book (in other words, no paranormal activities that involved her) was more or less of the same attitude.

These young ladies do not mind my company (or my wallet) when going out to eat, or shopping; They do mind  being seen at  a social setting or event. I, for one, am not ashamed of any discovery of our May/December relationship. It was the direct opposite for my female friends.

My last chapter highlighted this setting, and added an ugly twist. (See my blog on a taboo subject as to the events, and how they played out.)

Many people my age cannot fathom being in an open relationship, and ask me about my sanity, and it’s status. The recent SCOTUS landmark decision of equal marriage rights, regardless of gender, highlights the changing matrimonial landscape. Transgender individuals are a big issue in these modern times. So, compared to these new developments, is a May/December status really that much out of the ordinary? By ordinary, I might mention that I have a resident entity on a regular basis? How normal is that?

Tonight, my young friend is getting settled in her new apartment, I am happy for her in her new found independence, saddened by the fact she is closer in vicinity to her other friend, and am looking forward to visiting her, when allowed. Luckily, tomorrow she stays with me for the day. Hooking up with the younger generation is no easy task.