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Marriage, Dating, and Hooking Up with the younger generation

Tales of my wife, and second wife are barely mentioned in my book. I am a baby boomer, and the matrimonial tradition was still strong with me before most of the chapters in my book started. However, different forces, circumstances, and just plain life in general set this askew. I dated/lived with a girlfriend for over 5 years in the domicile where Dr. Schadt haunted us. Myra has several chapters devoted strictly to her, and our collective misfortune of being haunted. Myra was only twelve years my junior; the generational gap was more of an overlap than a complete paradigm shift. After our parting of way, it was pretty much hit and miss, relationship wise, until I started meeting and living with much younger females.

Interesting enough, there is some separate lingo and terminology when dealing with the younger generation. Since I am in an open relationship, my much younger friend Diane states we are not boyfriend or girlfriend. We are neither dating, or in a relationship. We are, however, hooking up.

I can’t say that I blame them, this younger generation, for their lack of focus. Ignoring politics, economics, or the speed of technology, their mindset is different. My previous contact with a like minded female who did not make it into my book (in other words, no paranormal activities that involved her) was more or less of the same attitude.

These young ladies do not mind my company (or my wallet) when going out to eat, or shopping; They do mind  being seen at  a social setting or event. I, for one, am not ashamed of any discovery of our May/December relationship. It was the direct opposite for my female friends.

My last chapter highlighted this setting, and added an ugly twist. (See my blog on a taboo subject as to the events, and how they played out.)

Many people my age cannot fathom being in an open relationship, and ask me about my sanity, and it’s status. The recent SCOTUS landmark decision of equal marriage rights, regardless of gender, highlights the changing matrimonial landscape. Transgender individuals are a big issue in these modern times. So, compared to these new developments, is a May/December status really that much out of the ordinary? By ordinary, I might mention that I have a resident entity on a regular basis? How normal is that?

Tonight, my young friend is getting settled in her new apartment, I am happy for her in her new found independence, saddened by the fact she is closer in vicinity to her other friend, and am looking forward to visiting her, when allowed. Luckily, tomorrow she stays with me for the day. Hooking up with the younger generation is no easy task.